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Do You Make Room For Friendship?

When it comes to ‘dating’ do you make room for friendship? The reason this is such an important question is because friendship is one of the best ways to get to know someone, but is often overlooked. When we think of friends we tend to think of the ‘friend zone’ and nothing more. But friendship is where true connection is allowed to grow given the right amount of time and consideration. 

Now there is a distinction that needs to be made between being a true, genuine friend and simply being friendly. Being a real friend entails a deep level of transparency, honesty, consideration, and so much more. Being friendly usually entails just being nice enough to someone, usually to get something that you want. For the sake of this post, we are referring to real, authentic friendship.

So with those things in mind, rather than pursuing friendship, a lot of us will wholeheartedly pursue dating, having sex, committing and ‘figuring it out’ along the way in the hopes that the person we’re spending our time with will be right for us. This could explain why so many relationships tend to be such a short lived, confusing and frustrating experience. It usually boils down to one simple fact; you never took the time to get to know that person and when you found out who they really were, it fell apart.

To fix this, friendship is a great first step. Why? Because real friendship is the vehicle by which you can navigate someone’s true intentions, personality traits and habits, good or bad, without having to commit fully or make serious, permanent life decisions with them. Friendship can help you get the information you need up front so that in the event that you do become serious, you’re not taken by surprise on the backend or left feeling like you got a bad deal.

So the question still stands. Do you make room for friendship? Do you make room for the idea that getting to know someone BEFORE you commit to them is a game plan that could pay off? Do you believe that real friendship should be a requirement before moving into anything serious? If the answer is no, perhaps you should consider a new approach? What do you have to lose?

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